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Shared parenting after divorce

California families undergo many emotions during divorce and while resolving child custody and visitation issues. Recent and numerous studies of joint physical custody have shown that children who spend at least 35 percent of their time with each parent, instead of residing with one parent and visiting the other, have better relationships with each parent. They also perform better socially, psychologically and in school.

Until the end of the last century, divorce decrees usually granted custody to the mother while the children were offered visits every other weekend. These short visits may have been enjoyable, but did not reflect an authentic parent-child relationship.

Research supported by the National Institute for Mental Health showed that children and their fathers usually desired more time together. Shared parenting, having two parents who jointly had responsibility and involvement in their children's lives, was beneficial.

One researcher discovered that parents with joint physical custody have better outcomes for their families. This is true, even where one parent opposed this relationship at first, and where the parents had many conflicts. Shared parenting was also beneficial, regardless of the parent's income. Improving the quality of the children's relationship with each parent by increasing the time spent with each of them leads to an improved quality of life for the children, according to this research.

Many psychologists recognize the importance of shared parenting, but argue that it should be restricted if the children are young and not older than kindergarten age. For example, mothers should care for infants and toddlers and younger children should spend every night in their mother's home and never have a sleepover at their father's home.

However, father's account for 41 percent of parenting time in families where both parents work. They learn to respond to and interpret their children's behavior, and may even have a greater impact in the child's language development and determination with facing challenges. Limiting fathering time to daytime for younger children, accordingly, impedes their relationship with their fathers.

An attorney can assist parents with negotiating or seeking an order that works for the best interests of the child. Legal advice can help assure that the parent's reasonable concerns are reflected in the final court order.

Source: STAT News, "After divorce, shared parenting is best for children's health and development," Richard A. Warshak, May 26, 2017

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