It is both good news and bad news for Orange County parents that there is really no such thing as a permanent child custody and parenting time arrangement.
A previous post on this blog talked about the role a guardian ad litem has in a child custody case in Orange, California. This blog has also previously reported on mediators, who are third parties that help parents and their attorneys resolve their custody disputes over custody or parenting time outside of court.
Orange County, California, custody disputes can be difficult. For one, even the best of intentioned parents may find it difficult to agree on how to resolve their case, as it is difficult to divide a child the way one would money or even a piece of property. In other cases, there are very sensitive issues like child abuse or domestic violence in play. Finally, there are some situations, such as when a child has some special needs, where it just makes sense for a child to have someone on their side representing their interests in custody litigation.
A recent post on this blog discussed how many California courts will encourage, or even require, medication when parents in the Stockton are having a child custody or parenting time dispute. While not appropriate in all cases, mediation is often good in the sense that it encourages parents to come to agreements about their children, which usually benefits the kids long-term.
Many people in Orange County have often heard that it is always better for parents wo are not living together to work out their visitations involving child custody and parenting time outside of court if at all possible. Parents who are able to get along on issues involving their kids give their children a greater sense of stability.
Moving is just part of life for many Orange County residents. Whether it is some sort of a military service, a necessary change in jobs or professions or even just an urgent family situation, people often find themselves having to leave Orange County to go somewhere else in the state or, in many cases, having to move out of California altogether.
It is not uncommon for spouses involved in an unhealthy marriage to stay together solely to protect the wellbeing and happiness of their children. While this is, of course, a noble gesture, the fact remains that children generally will lead a happier and healthier life in an environment free of arguments, resentment and negativity.
While parents involved in a divorce can understand how difficult the time may be for them, sometimes the effects of a divorce on a child or children involved in the divorce could be overlooked or not properly addressed. Throughout the United States, including the Orange County, California, area, the courts recognize the potential trauma that could be involved in a divorce from the perspective of the children.
Activation to military service usually does not constitute grounds for modification of a child custody order in California. However, an order may be modified when an assignment requires a parent with sole or joint physical custody to move from their home, or when it has a significant impact on the parent's custody or visitation rights.
California families undergo many emotions during divorce and while resolving child custody and visitation issues. Recent and numerous studies of joint physical custody have shown that children who spend at least 35 percent of their time with each parent, instead of residing with one parent and visiting the other, have better relationships with each parent. They also perform better socially, psychologically and in school.